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This last lesson is a very import-
ant one to read carefully. Earlier
lessons explained to you about your own
body's development, about sexuality,
and a little bit about the reproductive
process. Now it is important to see how
all these things fit in together, and
to understand how they will affect your
life.
1You know how good it can feel to
be touched or held by people you love.]
This can be a pat on the back, a hug,
or a kiss. 2Adults sometimes have sex-
ual contact with people they love.]
This contact should be enjoyable for
both people. It is normal and healthy.
Sometimes, however, one person
wants the contact and the other one
doesn't. When one person forces physi-
cal or sexual contact on the other
(against the other's wishes) it is no
longer normal and healthy. 3You should
never allow yourself to be touched
anywhere (or by anyone) if you don't
want to be.] This next section is writ-
ten to help you decide who you should
allow to touch you, and how to prevent
others from touching you when you don't
want them to.
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1Is it normal for people to touch and
hold each other?
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1Do adults sometimes have sexual con-
tact because it feels good?
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2If somebody older than I wants to hold
me close or touch me, should I let
that person?
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The previous lesson stated that
although it is normal and healthy to
touch and be touched by people you
love, it is NOT good to allow strangers
to touch you. This lesson will help you
to understand who a stranger is.
A stranger is someone you don't
know. Even people that you sort of know
(like the doorman, or mailman) are
really strangers. 1Just because you
know their name, and maybe they know
yours, does not mean that they are not
strangers.]
People who come to your house
(like your relatives or friends of your
parents) are not strangers. These are
people you and your parents have known
for a long time. If you are ever not
sure if someone should be considered a
stranger, ask your parents.
Why did we take all this time to
explain who is a stranger? Because 2it
is possible that a stranger would want
to hurt you or to touch you without
your permission.] To avoid that happen-
ing to you, you must be careful not to
follow strangers into their cars,
homes, or anywhere. Many of you have
been taught not to be rude to adults.
This is true, but it does not mean you
have to do what a stranger tells you to
do. 3It is important to obey your par-
ents, relatives, teachers, and baby-
sitters -- but it is NOT necessary to
obey strangers.]
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1Can someone be a stranger even if I
know that person's name?
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1Could a stranger try to hurt me or do
something wrong to me?
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2Should I do anything that an adult
tells me to do?
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Now that we know it is not rude to
ignore or disobey strangers, let's
learn more about how to avoid them.
Here are some suggestions that will
make sense to you if you think about
them:
a) 1Never play in a place where
there are no other people around.]
b) Don't hang out alone outside
places like the mall, the supermarket,
the movies, the stores, or parking
lots.
c) If you are waiting outside for a
friend or a relative, arrange a place
where other grownups will be around,
and stay where you are supposed to.
d) 2Do not accept automobile rides
from strangers.]
When you go out somewhere, make
sure you do the following:
a) 3Tell your parents (or babysit-
ter, or relative) where you are going.]
b) Call when you get there; let
them know you got there safely.
c) Give them the name and phone
number of the friend you are going to
visit.
d) If you are going to be home
later than you thought, call home first
so that your parents won't worry.
The next lesson will give you a few
more hints for avoiding trouble by
avoiding strangers.
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2Is it a good idea to hang out alone in
a place where hardly anybody ever goes?
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2Is it safe to talk to a stranger in a
car?
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1Is it always necessary to tell my
parents where I am going and with whom?
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All these lessons about strangers
are not meant to scare you. Many people
in this world are very nice. 1But there
are also some mean people and some sick
people who would hurt you for no rea-
son.] These are the people (we are
calling them strangers) from which you
must protect yourself.
2These strangers that want to harm
you may be very tricky. They might seem
to be very nice.] They may even offer
you ice cream, candy, or something that
they know you will like. That is like a
trap. Just like the fisherman uses bait
to hide a dangerous hook, the stranger
is trying to trick you. Once he gets
you (with the treat) he may take you
away and do horrible things to you.
Maybe he won't even let you go home.
Here is a list of some of the ways
the stranger may try to trick you:
a) He may offer you a ride in his
car.
b) He may ask you for directions,
and then grab you into his car.
c) He may say he will walk you home
to "protect" you. (Never tell a stran-
ger where home is.)
d) He may say your parents sent him
to pick you up. (3If your parents ever
send someone to pick you up that you
don't know, it is best to have arranged
a password to identify that person.])
e) He may offer you a treat, some-
thing you will like, and then ask for,
or take, something (maybe YOU) in
return.
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1Is there any reason for a stranger to
try to hurt me?
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2Is it easy to tell a friendly person
from a stranger who would want to hurt
me?
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2It is OK to take a ride from a stran-
ger if he says he was sent by your
parents?
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Now let's learn what to do if for
some reason you do find yourself alone
with a stranger. Perhaps you were
tricked -- despite all the warnings in
the previous lesson.
1Once you realize that you are in a
dangerous spot, ask the stranger to let
you go.] Do not worry about being rude.
If the stranger is polite, he will
listen to you and let you go. If he
does not allow you to leave, 2you must
do whatever you can to get away.] Yell-
ing and screaming for help is a good
idea (don't wait until you are far away
from other people -- yell right away.)
If you can break free, do it. Don't
be afraid to punch or kick the stranger
who is holding you. Remember, try to
run to the nearest adults for help. (If
there is more than one adult around you
are much safer). If you can get to a
phone, call the police ("0" or "911" is
all you have to dial; you don't even
need money).
You now know a lot about how to
avoid having a nasty stranger take you
away. Of course, 3you wouldn't want to
let a stranger into your house either.]
If you answer the door and it is some-
one you haven't seen in your house
before, close and lock the door and get
your parents or babysitter. If there is
nobody else home, tell the stranger a
little white lie. Tell them you are
going to get your mother, then close
and lock the door, then call your par-
ents and tell them about the person at
the door. You do NOT want to let the
stranger in.
This is the last lesson for you
now. The next series of lessons is
meant for older children. If your par-
ents feel you are mature enough to
continue, they will allow you to start
the next set of lessons. We hope that
this information has been helpful to
you and that soon you will be reading
the next section.
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1If you realize that you are with a
stranger with which you shouldn't be,
should you ask him to let you go?
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1If you don't know where you are, would
it do any good to run away from a
stranger?
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2If you are home, are you safe from
strangers?
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